Here’s the thing that some people don’t seem to understand about sex & kink. You have to respect boundaries before you get to push them. You have to show people they’re safe before you get to make them feel scared. You have to respect people before you get to degrade them. You have to be normal with people before you get to be dirty with them. You can’t be skipping steps. Treating them like a person always comes before treating them like a toy.
People always say: “Not everyone is gonna like you, and that’s ok, nothing to take personally, it doesn’t matter” yet it still sucks. It sucks when it’s your teacher, it sucks when it’s your boss or co-worker or family member. It even sucks when it’s a friends friend or someone we barely know. It hurts. And you do not have to gaslight yourself into thinking that it doesn’t hurt when it does. You’re allowed to be upset when life is hard. You’re allowed to feel an emotion, even more when it makes perfect logical sense. We talk to a friend about our feelings, journal, reflect, use coping skills. We find peace after a while, that’s a more realistic solution. You got this. It will be ok.
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